Throughout time the definition of soulmates has become a likeness to fairy-tales, Prince Charming and happy ever afters. The deeply spiritual and often turbulent connection between soulmates has been reduced to ones marital partner, boyfriend or girlfriend- when in fact, the two relationships aren’t one and the same. A soulmate isn’t the person you married just because, well… you’re married to them. Not all soulmates are romantic partnerships, and people can certainly have more than one. It is often a case where two soulmates struggle to have a successful relationship due to their karmic debt. Throughout their spiritual journeys, they’ve already caused each other pain. It’s certainly not all doom and gloom, but not always the romantic fantasy that is sold to us in movies.
People with older souls tend to find new soulmates. A new soulmate is simply one that you haven’t met before. A soul that you aren’t bound to by karmic debt. Soulmates are brought together in order to challenge each other and encourage necessary growth and the maturing of ones soul in their present lives. When the time comes for us to die and for our souls to move on, those that have not evolved spiritually may find themselves meeting other souls from their past to relearn the same lessons all over again.
We often flee from our soulmates because of the freedom they give us. Freedom may sound desirable but vulnerability can be scary. It’s the ability to be vulnerable with others and oneself that sets us free.
Unfortunately, there is often far less love between two soulmates with karmic debt than you may think. Both the gravitation towards this person and the instinct to run far away from them are equally strong. Their presence may make you feel comfortable enough to open up your heart and soul. However, that very comfort from a physical stranger may be daunting, causing you to unconsciously put your guards up. When we aren’t vulnerable, we may be prisoners to our greatest fears, but we may find comfort in not having to address this with others. This is why we often block ourselves from stepping out of our comfort zone which the connection between true lovers and soulmates require. This tends to be the reason why newer souls who have only been here a few times find themselves in karmic relationships.
Meeting a soulmate is like re-visiting an old place buried far back in your memory. The recognition and familiarity is heavy, yet you don’t truly remember where these feelings come from.
Think of it as a form of déjà vu. Whilst you’ve certainly never seen this physical being before, something about the presence of their soul feels like you’re back where you once were before. It can either be a magical feeling of ‘coming home’ or an unnerving oh no, here we go again. A relationship between soulmates should feel fated. Somehow you can’t shake the feeling that this person was brought into your life for a reason. Whether it’s incredible timing or absolutely the worst, the feeling that your paths have deliberately crossed at that exact moment is undeniable.
People don’t often believe that it’s possible to have multiple soulmates. Perhaps due to their failure to recognise the separation between the soul and external self.
A soulmate is not the person who only loves you as the being standing before them. They’re someone who can see right through you. They know exactly how you think and feel, even when you don’t (or can’t) express these feelings outwardly. You may have just met them and couldn’t even say what their favourite colour is, yet still you feel as through you truly know them to a deeper level of understanding. Upon meeting them, you get a strong sense that this person could be the one for you or they could completely destroy you. They can be, but are not limited to being, a romantic partner. It isn’t the external you that’s drawing them in. Despite being in an unfamiliar ‘outer shell’, the core of your being still holds a sense of familiarity. It’s the you within that they are attracted to.
A relationship with a karmic soulmate may feel doomed from the start, full of dramatic highs and lows. It’s far easier to have a successful relationship with a new lover, than to be with someone who already has a hard emotional history with your soul.
With relationships between two karmic soulmates, pain is inevitable. The process of growth is rough and painful, it will never be a walk in the park. We have soulmates in order to address the parts of ourselves that we may not like. Meeting a soulmate may cause your most deep-rooted insecurities to arise. Maybe even a few that you didn’t even realise you had. It’s the very fear of being around someone that knows your most troubling traits that triggers our fight or flight. In our hearts we know which parts of ourselves need work, but we may not be ready to address them. Having these areas brought to light by someone who can see right through us causes our rapid retreat. But we cannot escape our fated relationships, which is why soulmates come and go.
A soulmate isn’t your easiest relationship. It isn’t your greatest lover or the person you loved the most. Soulmates aren’t exempt from hurting you, if anything they’re more prone to messing up because they too are learning. You are part of their growing process as much as they are a part of yours. It’s a beautiful feeling to know that your soul has guided others as others have guided you.