Lilith, the mythological being, first appeared in both Sumerian and Hebrew mythology around 5,000 years ago. In Hebrew mythology, Lilith was Adam’s first wife. It was said that she left the Garden of Eden after refusing to be placed lower than Adam, both as his wife and as a woman. From then on Lilith was rejected. She was demonised and characterised as an evil figure. It was told that she made demons her lovers as a consequence for her disobedience (or what we would consider an early feminist stance). Astrologically, Black Moon Lilith marks the furthest point of the Moon’s orbit in the sky. She isn’t a physical body, but a geometrical point, quite like the ascendant and descendant axis. Lilith works along with the planets, fuelling the fire of our deepest needs, and taking our relationship energies to other hidden dimensions.
By surrendering ourselves to the Black Moon, we can unveil the shadow side of our subconscious, the darker side to ourselves, and the raw sexual urges that we repress because society has taught us to do so.
What can we learn from Black Moon Lilith?
Lilith’s demonisation in mythology reminds us of the darker aspects to healing. Rejection. Anger. Pain. Loneliness. She reminds us that following your heart and listening to your souls voice won’t always be a positive experience, but it’ll always be liberating one. Black Moon Lilith urges us to follow our primitive impulses and rawest, natural instincts. She is intoxicatingly mysterious. An embodiment of divine feminine power. A symbol of deep truth, and a reminder that we should listen to the callings of our souls.
By surrendering ourselves to the Black Moon, we can unveil the shadow side of our subconscious, the darker side to ourselves, and the raw sexual urges that we repress because society has taught us to do so. Lilith aids us in healing without carrying grudges into our next lives with us. She urges us to be confident in who we are, and to deeply listen to our souls voice. She enables us to heal and mature in difficult and challenging environments. By analysing where Black Moon Lilith falls in our charts and surrendering ourselves to her, we can see how we ought to adapt and increase our awareness in order to follow our destinies.
Lilith always has a presence within us, however she isn’t always fully activated or prominent. Sometimes she is seen by others before we can see her within ourselves. But nevertheless, she is there, waiting in the darkest shadows of our subconscious, yearning to be revealed and healed.
Lilith in Aries or the 1st House
When Lilith resides in the first house of the physical self, the body, identity and ego, a native will truly embody Lilith’s energy outwardly. Without realising it, this person may come across as alluring and sexually attractive to others, even when they aren’t trying to be. The strength and confidence that they appear to have in themselves is enticing. They may even come across as intimidating to some. Being spoken about by others is a sign to them that they must be doing something right that calls for the attention of others. This is regardless of whether the gossip is positive or negative. A person with Lilith in their 1st house is likely to have a streak of independence and a magnetising energy.
On the Shadow side, those with a 1st house Black Moon Lilith may feel as though they seem to attract trouble. If life isn’t going to shake things up for them, they’ll sure find a way to do so on their own. They tend to be their own worst enemy. The theme of rejection that encapsulates Lilith hits hard in this house, as it attacks one’s ego and identity. A native with this placement may feel as though they are continuously punished for simply being who they are. They may face a stream of life events that simply just don’t feel fair, and in their perception, doesn’t happen to other people as often.
Those with Lilith in their 1st house must own their confidence. They must reassure themselves that they aren’t being picked on by the universe, and stand up for themselves. Not against others, but against their inner voice that tell’s them they’re a screw up because they screwed up.
Lilith in Taurus or the 2nd House
When Lilith resides in the 2nd house of routine, security and possessions, a native may come across as materially driven or (if negatively aspected) highly selfish. If there is no reward, they aren’t likely to put in any work as it simply isn’t beneficial to them. Even if externally, they seem to be uninterested in materialism and wealth, they may secretly feel a burning desire to have those very things. Their thirst is unquenchable. No amount of gratification will get rid of these feelings that they often consider to be passion or drive.
On the shadow side, a native with Black Moon Lilith in their 2nd house may feel a frightening sense of lack of security and low self worth if they aren’t surrounded by things, or even people, under their ownership. Because society often correlates materialism with selfishness, they may feel a sense of guilt or shame for placing such an emphasis on material objects. This could manifest as hoarding or purging. A Lilith in the 2nd house native may constantly feel as though they aren’t being rewarded, no matter how hard they work. This is often because they constantly seek instant gratification as reassurance that they’re on the right track.
There is trouble here with equating ones self worth to external factors, which is where Lilith challenges natives to look within for such security. Rather than breaking and bending rules, and striving tirelessly for their hearts deepest desires, 2nd house natives ought to consider that they may already have enough tools internally to reach their highest potential. Embracing this and surrendering to a path that offers a higher reward but no instant gratification, will aid in healing their self esteem.
Lilith in Gemini or the 3rd House
Black Moon Lilith in the 3rd house of local community, communication and the mind, rules a native who is mysterious yet alluring with their words and mentality. They have a natural ability to manipulate truth and acquire truth in unconventional ways i.e. through overhearing others conversations or through gossip. A native may find that expressing their opinions and speaking out is always better than remaining silent. However, they may have a deep compulsion to exaggerate the truth or lie when feeling pressured or panicked.
Those with this natal placement often have negative experiences from their early childhood in education, in their neighbourhood or between them and their siblings which they may still hold grudges towards. They may feel sensitive to the judgement of others, leading to the sharpening of their tongues over the years so that they’re able to protect themselves. However, when it’s not used in defence, their words have an alluring edge that’s able to grasp people under their spells. By analysing others, they always seem to figure out exactly what it is that they need to say in order to get what they want.
Lilith challenges those with the Black Moon in their 3rd house to let go of their defensiveness, and to not shy away from putting themselves in the line of fire if they’re following their heart and speaking their truth. Without realising, a 3rd house Lilith native could be forcing themselves into isolation by casting aside everyone who isn’t in agreement with their opinions. They ought to accept that others can, and will, disagree with them, but reassure themselves that it is not a reflection of who they are if they don’t have an army behind them at all times.
Lilith in Cancer or the 4th House
A native with Black Moon Lilith in their 4th house of the home, emotions and foundations often has deep wounds from their childhood that they are challenged to release and grow from. This is a significant house for the Black Moon to reside in because healing childhood trauma is an unfortunately common and relatable experience. Generational trauma, conflict with parents (or between parents), or standing out amongst siblings are often problems that these natives experience.
Problems within the home or during childhood may manifest as a native not wanting to acknowledge that aspect of their lives. This could be by removing themselves from their home or hometown, becoming distant with relatives or even being unable to find the feeling of home anywhere, as they lack a sense of belonging. When the feeling of security is damaged during childhood, it’s often hard to establish a sense of belonging and security as an adult. A native may feel as though they’re the black sheep. The sibling that’s often neglected, or the person who has to deal with everyone else’s emotional baggage.
Alternatively, a native with Lilith in their 4th house may come from a family in which the themes of Lilith (rejection, isolation, anger, suppression and dark healing) is prevalent already. It could be another family member who deals with such themes which affects the way the native perceives their home life. Rather than being nurtured, they were the nurturer. A native may have felt as though being their authentic self and following their hearts truest desires wasn’t possible without judgement. This lead to them suppressing their honest beliefs and hiding their true emotions. They may feel as though they were never their true self during childhood, or that their immediate family didn’t, or still doesn’t, truly know who they are. A native is either trying to escape Lilith, suppress her, or both. They ought to find the strength to be vulnerable, and acknowledge and accept their pain.
Lilith in Leo or the 5th House
When Black Moon Lilith resides in the 5th house of creativity, romance and play, a native may struggle with expressing themselves. There may have been a time, likely during childhood, where the native was shamed, rejected or embarrassed because of the things that brought them joy. They may have hidden their hobbies and passions, or rejected them in the face of society, in order to fit in and avoid looking different or ‘weird’. A native may have felt as though they grew up rather quickly, or were denied the free-spirited and playful childhood that they desired. Outside of childhood, a native could’ve also experienced these feelings of rejection from a lover.
Because they feel unable to embrace their true passions, a 5th house Lilith native may overcompensate by showing off and being dramatic about other things that they enjoy to distract from their hidden interests. Lilith in the 5th house seeks a sense of connectedness. They adore being noticed, which is perhaps something that have also been shamed for, and often have a lively rather than serious approach to life. Themes of the 5th house surrounding sexuality and creation is significant when addressing the affects of Black Moon Lilith. A native with Lilith in their 5th house may completely embrace their sexuality or completly reject it. Finding a happy medium between the two may be harder for them than it is for others.
For a 5th house Lilith native, learning to accept themselves at their core is essential in order to heal these wounds. Appreciating attention and acceptance from others isn’t a bad thing when done in moderation. This moderation can only come from accepting oneself first, rather than relying on external forces in order to feel welcomed by others. Additionally, you must not shy away from parenthood or forming bonds with children due to the deep fears that you hold within. You mustn’t be afraid of being authentically you, regardless of how others may react towards this.
Lilith in Virgo or the 6th House
When Black Moon Lilith resides in the 6th house of work, health and routine, a native may feel a sense of judgement from others regarding their perceptions towards obligation and duty. This could manifest as someone who refuses to allow others to sway their decision making. A person with Lilith in the 6th house may find themselves being over critical of the decisions they make, and may even pass the blame when they’ve made the wrong decisions. Their focus on their external health may cloud their judgement on the external decisions they make that are also unhealthy for them e.g. nurturing the body but neglecting the mind and soul.
A person with a 6th house Black Moon Lilith is detail oriented, highly specific, and refuses to feel as though they are beneath anyone. They refuse to submit to hierarchy and patriarchy, and can often come across as overly critical. A native of this placement won’t be eager to please others, and may find trouble in their workplace by addressing bosses or employers with their untameable energies.
It’s important for those with this placement to remember that there is nothing wrong with structure and routine itself, but being able to say that you don’t step out of such rigid structures shouldn’t fill you with as much worth as it does. In the past, this native was likely judged by others for the way that they categorised and went about getting things done. But it’s important now to remember that rejecting those who challenge your expression isn’t healthy. Accept the fact that there isn’t just one way to go about things; there isn’t always a wrong or right, black or white. It’s just as important in life to be a student as well as a teacher. If you can’t do both, you haven’t truly understood what it means to lead others, and to be a figure of strength and wisdom.
Lilith in Libra or the 7th House
Black Moon Lilith in the 7th house of relationships, professional partnerships and equality highlights the importance that a native holds on loyalty, but suggests that they often don’t give what they expect from others. Lilith in the 7th house natives are masters of relationships. They know exactly how to go about getting what they want, and can often be highly self invested. Of course this isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but can be when one solely pays attention to the self at the expense of others.
With Lilith in the 7th house, a person may attract romantic partners with ‘darker’ aspects to them. Due to an inability to see the darkness within oneself, a 7th house Lilith native will seek this outwardly as they themselves cannot relate and embody these energies. A 7th house Lilith native will crave deep connections with romantic partners who typically have heavy Lilith aspects themselves. Whilst they may feel empowered in relationships and go after whoever and whatever they desire, their relationships are likely to feel intense with a strong emphasis on sex. It’s difficult here as a native ought to focus on not being overly co-dependent in their relationships, and refrain from calling others out on behaviour that they themselves are also guilty of.
There may be a sense here where a native feels as though they’re constantly floating between the light and shadow side. They crave equality, but won’t hold back on using their charm or even seductive nature to win people over. Being rejected by a parter or feeling as though their raw, sexual desires are unaccepted will hit this native hard, causing insecurities that holds them back in future relationships. It’s important for a 7th house Lilith native to remember the importance of sexual compatibility, and recognise that they simply won’t find a connection with everyone. Rejection is inevitable, but it’s a part of life and not a reflection of you.
Lilith in Scorpio or the 8th House
When the Black Moon Lilith resides in the 8th house of transformation, merging, and intimacy, a native will have a complicated journey regarding their sexual self expression and feeling of safety. Being able to openly express ones raw desires requires a significant amount of trust and honesty; trust in a sexual partner but of course trust with yourself. A native may feel as though they’re very comfortable with their sexuality on their own and in private, but struggle with sharing these desires with a partner out of fear of being too much or not accepted.
There may be power struggles in an 8th house Lilith’s relationships, particularly in the areas of sex and resources. Coming to terms with the idea of authority and channelling resentment towards an entire system is a challenge that this native faces. Quite like Lilith herself, an 8th house Lilith native won’t take too kindly to submitting to authoritative and financially dominating figures.
Someone with an 8th house Black Moon Lilith may struggle with letting go of pain, perhaps more so than others. Secrecy, grudges, manipulation, and revenge are strong themes of this natal placement. Vengeance to this native is often more liberating than forgiveness. But in the long run, does very little to contribute to their healing. This native ought to separate themselves from the pain that they have experienced, and learn to not define themselves by their negative experiences so heavily.
Lilith in Sagittarius or the 9th House
When Black Moon Lilith enters the 9th house of philosophy, travel and mind expansion, a native will have a streak of activism and independence within them. They have an innate curiosity about the world, a restlessness to find their own answers to life’s deepest questions, and an intense need to challenge the status quo. Quite like Lilith herself, a 9th house native embraces their freedom entirely and follows their own ideas regardless of the beliefs of the majority.
Lilith in the 9th house is a rebellious rule breaker. She’s highly convincing and often passionately imposes her views onto others. She challenges those around her to rethink their own views and to instead, align themselves with hers. Lilith in the 9th house considers her beliefs to be general truth rather than just her truth. Guiding others and being a philosophical teacher grants her a sense of power. However, she may reject traditional ideas of wise figures e.g. in higher education by abandoning studies or by challenging religious institutions.
A native with a 9th house Lilith craves new experiences and yearns to expand her horizons. She is led by her morals or even her deep-rooted fears, and may come across as hypocritical to others. Problems can arise for Lilith in the 9th house when she places far too much emphasis on her assumptions. She may not tolerate the views of others, and may often be superstitious or too engrossed in conspiracies. A 9th house Lilith native may often be judgemental and act on belief and hope rather than truth.
Lilith in the 9th house challenges a native to address their hidden insecurities and expand their mind. It’s imperative for them to understand that there is no universal truths or ideas, and that a multitude of ideas can exist at one time. Lilith here is a natural teacher, a feminist at heart, and has a natural activist flair. This is why it’s imperative for a native here to embrace honesty. This native ought to let go of the control and power that comes along with knowledge and leadership. Liberating those around you with pure intent is just as important as liberating yourself, which is often a calling from your souls.
Lilith in Capricorn or the 10th House
When Black Moon Lilith enters the 10th house of career, reputation and authority, a native’s public self is highly similar to that of Lilith. A native here has an innate hunger for success that they may have once been shamed for. They may come across as instinctive, yet they are always calculated with their movements. Lilith here naturally attracts a critical eye from others, whether it be authoritative figures or the public, she is heavily watched by others and her outer image is often under scrutiny. She may battle with conservative ideas of how they should behave (particularly if the native is a woman). Lilith in the 10th house is often the topic of gossip, or may find that she attracts unwanted attention and drama. This is perhaps why control is so important to a native with this placement. The challenge for a Lilith in the 10th house native is to remain strong in their self worth and who they are, despite the opinion of others. When they have a strong belief in themselves, they are an unstoppable force.
However, they can be held back by doubt, second guessing themselves and the critique of others. It’s likely that a native here works better alone than collaboratively. They’ll take charge in group projects and won’t shy away from taking a majority of the credit. However, if things were to go wrong, they wouldn’t hesitate to share the blame in order to lessen the blow on their reputation. Black Moon Lilith here loves to assert her authority. Although, she may have had negative experiences with authority figures in the past which motivated her to be a notable, feminine, figurehead herself. A native’s ambition and presence as a determined, powerhouse is likely to stir feelings of jealousy in others.
Additionally, it is essential for a person with Lilith in the 10th house to own their mistakes rather than passing blame. During childhood, this native may have had a dis-harmonic relationship with their dominant parent, which heavily impacted their perceptions of life. A native is challenged here to release and heal all that caused them pain during childhood. Only then will they be able to loosen the reigns on power and control, as they will no longer fear other people taking control of their perceptions or who they are. Channelling energies into work and other productive tasks will be highly beneficial to this native. But it’s important to remember that one can’t go through life solely on their own or in isolation.
Lilith in Aquarius or the 11th House
When Black Moon Lilith resides in the 11th house of friendship, social awareness and humanitarianism, a native may find it a little more difficult to express themselves in social situations. They may often feel like an outsider, watching others come together behind an invisible glass screen. Lilith here is far from a traditionalist. She desires to be a stand-out, unique figure, yet simultaneously may feel as though she was rejected or cast out for being different.
A Lilith in the 11th house native often holds other people to their own ideals and standards, which they expect them to live up to. They often take a lot from others, relationship wise, but don’t reciprocate and give themselves to others as much. They’d rather share themselves closely and comfortably with a few individuals rather than with a group. This likely causes a Lilith in the 11th house native to feel protective, maybe even possesive, over her close-knit friends. It takes a lot for them to truly feel accepted (quirks and all) by others, meaning they may fear letting such people go as it would certainly feel like rejection.
Someone with Lilith in the 11th house may find that their experiences with friendship shaped their reality. Negative experiences within their circle or community will likely cause them to alienate themselves. They may find that they are sexually drawn towards their friends and those in their inner circle. Platonic relationships are of high value to them, but they may seem to find that they are continuously floating between friends and more than friends with a select few.
The lessons and areas of growth for a native here is to find a sense of belonging deep within themselves so they aren’t projecting this fear onto others. They ought to learn to reciprocate in their relationships, and focus on creating harmonious relationships. Once they find a sense of home within, and believe that they are truly deserving of their place within their community, they will stop yearning for others to tell them that they belong in order to actually feel accepted.
Lilith in Pisces or the 12th House
When Lilith enters the 12th house of spirituality, subconscious and closure, a native may be subjected to a lot of fears and may struggle with enforcing their personal boundaries. A native here will block out their trauma or negative experiences, and is likely to experience the themes of Lilith in their dreams. They may struggle with feeling secure in their own body and tend to find moments where they can escape from their reality, for example by sleeping. However, they are haunted at night by their mistakes and their experiences, but will put on a brave face to the world during the day. A natives dreams will often have an air of mysticism about it, or will be connected to their sexuality.
A native may find that their words get twisted often or they seem to get stories wrong in ways that may cause others to become upset. They may fall victim to self destructive behaviour or thought patterns which may seem to hold them back in life. Their mind is their biggest enemy, and the sooner they grasp control of their mind rather than letting their mind rule them, the better. A Lilith in the 12th house native may find that they are distracted by their negative thoughts when they are surrounded by people that they care about. They no longer have to address their fears or concerns when they’re distracted by others. Lilith here has truly swept her problems under the rug. She blames herself for things that are out of her control and places high, nearly impossible, expectations on herself.
Being disciplined with oneself is an essential for a Lilith in the 12th house native. That, as well as addressing their fears, phobias, and hidden secrets with compassion and care. Usually traumas are buried deep and will take time to untangle and heal, but it’s essential that they remain kind to themselves. A native here must remind themselves as often as they can that there is nothing wrong with them, and that they are flawed and fighting their own internal battle just like everyone else. Practicing healthy thought patterns will be greatly beneficial. That, as well as turning your pain and experience into your power. The darkness within you can be turned into light with work and compassion.